Venkatesh Rao

The Cobra Kai S3 has an excellent example of such an incident: When Hawk is faced with the choice to break the arm of his once-best-friend Dmitri. What happens next? Watch that truly excellent t show to find out

The medium is the message though. Every cohort faces a different pattern of radicalizing threat dependent on medium. In my coming-of-age time, pre-Internet (graduated high school in 92-93), it was some sort of physical-setting public humiliation. Now it’s often online cancelation

Notice the comfort he appears to take in attaching labels to himself (paleoconservative, Republican values, social conservative, white nationalist). In someone 10 years older, there would be defensive reluctance in accepting labels because by then you’ve learned the cost.

By around 40, even the dimmest person has recognized that labels are like taxes. You want the minimum you can get away with. You certainly don’t celebrate them. But 18-30 or so, they seem like prestigious “free” prizes. Participation trophies.

I think one reason I never ventured down such paths (besides the wrong temperament) is I’ve never tried to join any social circle or made a bid for acceptance in any group that didn’t express active interest in me. The “inner ring” syndrome is something I’m weirdly immune to.

I’ve always been way too busy chasing down non-social bunnytrails of personal interest that can be pursued alone and don’t involve forming opinions of other humans. That seems to confer some sort of immunity.

As a teenager, most of my surplus attention was on astronomy, airplanes, history of science, “how things worked” books, world history, wildlife. Pure nerdery. I was smart enough to process and navigate social stuff easily but did not get actually interested in them till my 30s.