People really like to have both sides of conversations. You’d think this is a sort of stylized performance element but it isn’t. Many people have a real style that a,punts to: have both sides of a conversation, get mad when live counterparty goes off script, to force them back onhttps://twitter.com/leftistexe/status/1330386159176982529 …
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The “data” of the consult will be one-sided highly unreliable hearsay reports of conversations *they*had. Unconsciously these reports will have a) caricaturing of counterparty b) consistency editing removing the revealing glitches c) embellishments to make themselves look good
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It’s not a court so you can’t get testimony from other side. They’re unconsciously looking for validation but if you cave and supply it, you’re useless and they’ll eventually realize it and end the gig You can’t cross-examine like they’re a hostile witness: you’re on their side
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This problem is hard. My solution is to... 1. Only work with people mature enough to be above this dynamic, or to at least want to be above it 2. Work long-term (> 4-5 meetings over 6 months) so you can reinforce better self-witnessing behaviors
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