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I've never met anyone in my life who didn't know something unique and special that no one else I know knows. I wish you all shared your beautiful ideas more freely! We're here to listen
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Something about people doing that rubs me the wrong way. They’re often badly wrong and it ends up being annoying rather than flattering. A better strategy is to let them know how something they said/did benefitted you and leave the reflecting on strengths to them.
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I think we’re describing different scenarios my model for this scenario is: - I want this type of advice and see how it is useful to me - I respect the person’s judgement and/or knowledge of me - I want there to be an easy/safe way to receive advice from them on my strengths
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Yeah, that’s a rarer situation in the right kind of relationship. Like when I finished thesis, my advisor said by way of parting advice something like “you have originality” which others before/since have said. Powerful validation coming from him, meh/negative from most people.
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In that case because he himself was a highly original guy (RIP) and I understood his tastes in originality in research quite well and didn’t think I’d measure up. So it surprised me in a positive way.
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