I've never met anyone in my life who didn't know something unique and special that no one else I know knows.
I wish you all shared your beautiful ideas more freely! We're here to listen ✨
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It’s often hard to know what we have that is unique and special!
People should spend more time *telling someone what their special knowledge is* to help them see it
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Something about people doing that rubs me the wrong way. They’re often badly wrong and it ends up being annoying rather than flattering. A better strategy is to let them know how something they said/did benefitted you and leave the reflecting on strengths to them.
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Interesting! Yes, I like the utilitarian angle --
Is an idea good if it didn't benefit anyone? (Open question)
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It’s not utilitarian. Nothing to do with utility. Centering your own reaction avoids caging the other person with “praise,” or worse, mistakenly validating an identity they reject, or worst, setting yourself as a judge without knowing whether they even respect your judgment.
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You could also just say how it made you feel/react rather than how it was useful. “That joke made me laugh” as opposed to “you are a funny person” or worst “you have a great sense of humor”
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Ie: how do you know I like my funny side? Maybe I dislike it as a sign of insecurity. Or maybe being funny to you is a bad sign for me because I’m trying to impress Jerry Seinfeld level people. Etc etc.
Centering personal reactions safely avoids all that.
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Sounds slightly like Nonviolent Communication to me. Without the kindness 😅
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I’m very kind. Just on a longer time scale than most people 😇


