I've never met anyone in my life who didn't know something unique and special that no one else I know knows.
I wish you all shared your beautiful ideas more freely! We're here to listen ✨
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It’s often hard to know what we have that is unique and special!
People should spend more time *telling someone what their special knowledge is* to help them see it
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Something about people doing that rubs me the wrong way. They’re often badly wrong and it ends up being annoying rather than flattering. A better strategy is to let them know how something they said/did benefitted you and leave the reflecting on strengths to them.
Interesting! Yes, I like the utilitarian angle --
Is an idea good if it didn't benefit anyone? (Open question)
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It’s not utilitarian. Nothing to do with utility. Centering your own reaction avoids caging the other person with “praise,” or worse, mistakenly validating an identity they reject, or worst, setting yourself as a judge without knowing whether they even respect your judgment.
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If someone tells me their take and they’re badly wrong, I either know right away and/or I have an avenue for a specific reevaluation. It can be both annoying and productive in this case
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My heuristic is basically the praise/positive version of this thing called the SBI method of criticism/negative feedback. Mature adults typically dislike identity pigeonholing in both directions. mindtools.com/pages/article/
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