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It’s really depressing how important it is to every person to be seen, no matter how obscure and unimportant, and how deeply they start to collapse when they’re not being seen. And older = worse. Most people don’t develop the inner resources to endure not being seen for long.
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And “seeing” work in service of people with nothing much to present is the most difficult kind of caring work. Relentlessly demanding, exhausting, and fundamentally unrewarding/thankless, even if you’re being paid. Reverse dementoring. Soul transfusion instead of soul sucking.
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I think a lot of us who do a lot of charging work got a weird tweak from the factory such that it charges us too. Though not in a totally reliable way - it usually charges me but sometimes wiped me out, and I can’t predict which will happen
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Part of my "soft goals" for this year is to increase my emotional slack for care-work. I'm awed by those who offer very rich, attentive, intellectual-emotional feedback. As if they have a deep, inviolable security that isn't controlled by emotional or financial markets.
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And sounds like you're projecting your personality style of personal limitations onto others. Plenty of people who care for others, and see them, don't find it the way you're describing.
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