. was making a delicious Stew and just talking about how much she loved cooking
and kind of segued into a discussion of how much she liked tidying and taking care of kids
and then a really excited and unprompted "Yeah! I wanna be your housewife! YEAH!"
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and IM mad because you know what *I* like that idea too!
no one else in the world would do a better job of taking care of our kids than she will, and this is the thing that matters most to me in the next thirty years of my life
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I mean what if we didn't even HAVE to deal with child prisons?
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And I'm partly Mad that she was made to feel bad about wanting what she wanted but I have already explored this sentiment before
What was new was that what the hell it didn't occur to *me* as a possibility even a bit
But it's probably the best fit for the life I want to make
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Huh, I just assumed this was already your plan! Typical mind fallacy, I suppose. Does strike me as odd it hasn’t occurred to you as a possibility.
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Me too in retrospect
I think my unexamined belief was that no woman would actually want this, and that it would be Bad for me to want it
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This is so unfortunate 😭. I remember assuming guys wouldn’t actually be okay with me not having a money-making job once upon a time.
Though random college discussions with friends about our desired futures partly cleared this up.
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I dated a guy who thought it unfair on its face for his potential future wife not to work at all, but had nothing further to say about that and it was kind of an emperor has no clothes moment for me
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Yeah I mean that framing seems pretty incorrect lol.
But I had a hard time imagining that someone would want a career more than to be the one at home with the kids.
I sort of still do tbh?
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I can identify with that for sure. Though I was never super into wanting kids either haha.
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Umm isn’t this a function of husband being able to make enough? Tradwifery is an upper-middle-class luxury lifestyle choice today. Most of America is caught in the two-income trap that Warren got famous researching. Median guys don’t expect to make enough to support this.
Yeah to be clear as always I’m trying to talk to people roughly kinda like me.
But for years and I both lived in tinier places than is considered normal to do this.
And I hear rich women talk about how they have to go to work to afford daycare...
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I liked that book, it was clarifying for me. the UMC instantiation is wife like me, who works at will largely for pleasure, not to put gas in the car when hubby's sick or whatever.
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