Going boneless in conversation is weirdly sustainable unlike the silent treatment or conscious passive aggression. So long as you don’t need the other person for psychological sustenance you can keep it up for a long time without breaking up. Some people keep it up for years.
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People are so afraid of calling out submerged conflict they’ll work overtime to hold up both ends of the conversation rather than admit the other person has already checked out.
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The trick to breaking this is to suggest a neutral higher energy activity where “no” would require an excuse like “I’m tired” that might be called out as a lie, but “yes” involves boney energizing. So forces a break or clear slip into passive aggression that they then have to own
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