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Came up with a model I call the need/want/ignore social psychology model. The world has 3 kinds of people in relation to you: people you need in your life, people you want in your life, and people you’re indifferent to. It’s not symmetric so there’s 9 kinds of relationship.
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Everybody has a crazy side and a sane side. Your crazy side hooks up with the complementary crazy side of a few others to form the core co-dependencies you need in your life. Need-need is private life.
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Want-want is your sane side hooking up with the same sides of others creating your public life. Ignore-ignore is your live and let live life. These 3 are the main diagonal.
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Off-diagonal pairs: I-need-you-want: exploiter/exploiter I-need-you-ignore and I-want-you-ignore is various patterns of dehumanization ranging from stalking to ghosting. Details left as homework.
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Much less overlap than you’d think, so to first approximation most relationships are nearly pure examples of 1 of the 9.
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Fill each cell with the number of people you have in each cell of the 3x3 and you have a picture of your entanglement in society. Computing the eigenvalues would probably reveal something.
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You can see the role a particular social graph plays in your life by construct a matrix just from that and subtracting it from your full matrix.
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... LU decomposition, canonical forms for NWI social graphs and other uselessly overwrought ideas. But unnecessary math aside, this is probably the bleakest social model I’ve ever made up, if you work out the implications. As a species we’re more crazy than sane.
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I don't think it's bleak, you just might be overvaluing sane and underappreciating crazy. If you work backwards, starting with the category of need-need co-dependants, barring pathological relationships, isn't that like... Your spouse, parents, closest friends?
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