Asking people what they do should count as a microaggression.
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This becomes especially clear at networking type events where I’m there mainly to talk to people I already know, eat/drink a bit on other people’s dime, score some decent schwag, and fill the gaps browsing twitter etc. I’m clearly a horrible person.
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I decided like 20y ago that nothing of importance happens for me through “networking” and I can’t do anything for others that way either. Almost nothing of consequence has happened for me via “introducing” myself blank-slate. I get to know/get known by people indirectly.
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Minor things might start through cold introductions. Big things almost never seem to. Not counting formal things like job applications.
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It’s kinda liberating to admit, now that I’m past the age where I have to pretend to find these useful, why I actually occassionaly go to these things 😆
Events you organize don’t count because that’s like having a cheat code where everyone already knows you by construction
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Unless you’re in sales, it’s much easier and more interesting to work on free samples of yourself rather than business cards or intro spiels. It won’t lead to anything either but you’ll at least enjoy cold-start conversations more.
“What do you do?”
“Here’s a free sample”
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