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i'm struggling to express my horror here without being mean to the OP i don't know who needs to hear this but: please consider the possibility that relating to yourself primarily as a tool for "work" is inevitably going to cause burnout no matter how good you get at self-care
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in fact, getting better at self-care might make the problem worse, by staving off the crisis that would cause you to seriously reflect on how you relate to "work" as a source of meaning, validation, etc.
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this has been a theme of my thoughts lately, how lots of advice is about improving coping mechanisms in a way that delays crisis, and how this isn't obviously good in the long run kinda think people would be better off having crises as quickly as they have the resources for
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The one area where I'd recommend against this is when it would be too conservative a strategy because it's not so much delay as a natural season. No point crashing early and often into the problems of parenthood if you aren't planning to have kids for 10 years, or ever.
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