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Easier to meet with person n for the 1st time than person 1 for nth time, once a reason like a shared office is gone Most curiosity about any person is satisfied after 1 meeting Particularly clear as a blogger. A lot of people are curious to meet me once. Twice, not so much 😆
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Not like being disappointed and dropping it, since things generally continue cordially with deepened trust, but meetings 2+ require stronger reasons, a theme etc. I’d guess the number of times I’ve met readers follows a power law. Takes me about 4-5 meetings to become friends.
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Wild guess at distribution of reader meeting frequency Met once: 400 Met twice: 200 Met thrice: 100 Met 4 times: 50 Met 5 times: 25 5+ times: 25
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I’m really bad keeping up my end tbh. But it just takes a lot of effort. Especially if you move around a lot and don’t live in places with a high density of offline+online acquaintances. San Francisco is probably the only place where it would be easy for me to keep up.
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Sounds like a blessing one bestows “Should you be more interesting in person than on twitter” I think it’s because on Twitter, no one can see how actively you listen There’s no eye contact And no dynamic of voice
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It’s alright. The 20somethings around here are already meeting in saunas without tech and just chilling for hours. Just keep riding pendulum and don’t get smashed to the wall on one side :p
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Meeting a group of several developing acquaintances at once seems to be a more effective format for keeping interactions engaging + pushing concerns about there needing to be an obvious reason for meeting to the background.
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I suspect you may just be describing the life of a peripatetic freelance consultant - I’ve had almost the opposite experience since returning to mud island and immersing myself in a few more geographically based communities