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Events in the past few years (from global to personal) have me thinking that the only way the aggravations of life on planet earth (from runaway climate change to lost credit cards) are ever worth it is if you have a robust (even if tiny) investment in a future you want to get to
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Got distracted, but want to finish a short thread on this. I don't mean investment as in education, life goals, etc. I mean even very mundane things like wanting to see the next Marvel movie.
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Like today I remembered I wanted to sign up for LA public library and filled out the form online. I'll be going to pick up my card later today. Surprisingly, one of the most cheery things I've done in what has otherwise been a bleak-ass week at all levels.
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Why? It's a small act that says "I expect to be around and having enough leisure and interest in life a few months from now to be checking out and reading books from a library". It's an act of faith in the meaningfulness of the future.
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Planning a vacation is similar. For women, buying a dress for the next season seems to do the same trick. Starting a hobby project that you know will take months or years to complete, starting to learn a musical instrument.
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Much more than figuring out big retirement portfolio things or planning to buy a house etc, it is these small investments in the future that matter for mental health. The big, necessary ones in fact can turn into oppressive burdens. I take zero joy in retirement investing for eg
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Another thing I did recently was buy a bunch of succulents. I have to figure out and learn how to take care of them, repot them, etc. Says a lot btw that succulents are rising in popularity. They are about the hardiest little investments you can make in the future.
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My mother-in-law, an avid gardener, told me that they're nearly impossible to kill. I hope she's right. I'm not exactly great at gardening.
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Your future is only as real as the little things you plant in it to look forward to, creating a gentle tug of anticipation to keep your inner clock ticking. If all you do everyday is deal with exhausting crap of daily life and responsible long-term crap, life is not worth it.
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"Living in the moment" is, neurologically speaking, bullshit. We're not creatures of the transient present. We have dopamine-driven striatum allowing us to live in stories rather than impressionistic scenes. That's a feature, not a bug. One meant to be used.
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I think what you are describing is not really an "investment" but a Self that identifies with a future version of itself. People in the west believe that Me+10yrs=Me (albeit a slightly weaker version). As a culture what we can do is expand that Self to identify with other things
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Not really. Aspirational self orientation has a narcissistic component that's missing in what I'm talking about. This is simply continued existence. And I don't know that there is anything particularly western about this. I see no difference between India and the US at least
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