Dealing with people for whom being respected/disrespected is a big deal feels really awkward, like writing with my left hand. I have to kinda model them in some sort of janky emulation mode. I can detect respect/disrespect but don’t have a strong response to it. 🤔
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I don’t care about traditional respect/disrespect the way a boomer might treat it as some deep interpersonal thing—but I do hate people disrespecting the value of my time. I feel like that’s a generational thing, but haven’t quite been able to put my finger on it.
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With cellphone coverage I usually don’t care about that... can keep myself busy anywhere, anytime
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It’s more about valuing your time and effort over mine. Think someone who takes shortcuts that you _think_ are the easier/right way to do something, but then they fuck it up and you have to come in and fix it—your real productivity goes down, while their perceived goes up.
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The core of that “I’m going to do it this way rather than the correct but slightly slower way that has been communicated to me as correct” attitude to me is a fundamental disrespect for the value of someone else’s time.
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I get it. It just doesn’t bother me until it actually inconveniences me materially. Abstract attitudes or stuff I can easily roll with I tend to filter out.
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Ah, you’re a better person than I. Sends me up walls when it happens. Thankfully less these days.
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