Principle of Narrative Relativity: You cannot shame or guilt someone living in a different narrative than you. You can at best humiliate or enrage them and that’s rarely a useful thing to do.
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Shame/guilt operate on a baseline posture of nonzero caring. A move to discount the value of the posture. But if someone doesn’t adopt a posture of even hypocritical caring to begin with you’ve got nothing. Discounting zero is still zero.
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If I pretend 2 units of caring but act only 1 unit, you could maybe shame me into matching actions to words. But you can’t shame someone who already cares 0 units.
It’s like the zero lose bound (ZLB) problem in monetary policy. You can’t lower nominal interest rate below zero.
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