Is self-satisfaction and smugness the same as liking yourself? Feels like there’s a delicate nuance separating the two that I’m not quite seeing.
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Complicated talking about this because there’s a sort of cultural pull/force that takes any attempt at a description of a neutral self-assessment and adds “shallow, selfish, narcissist” connotations
That said, IMO lots of smug people hate themselves, they “just” hate others more
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Smugness is often... hating yourself, but loving and admiring the part that does the hating
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I think “liking yourself” is the simplest and nicest idea, that lots of people struggle with after getting punched in the face by assholes
“self-satisfied” *should* mean “she’s totally fine on her own”, but it seems to often mean “oh she thinks she’s better than everyone”, 🤔
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People are often afraid to say (or even admit to themselves) that they like themselves, IMO in case the anti-narcissism police shows up to drag them, cancel them, cast them out
So I think a lot of people end up with surprisingly tedious & elaborate constructs, to avoid the cops
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