Preliminary theory of self-liking. It isn’t the same as being likable to others. It consists of being interested in what happens to you, without being overly invested in, or striving for, *particular* things to happen to you, so long as unpleasant premature endings are avoided.
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It is somewhat orthogonal to self-esteem. Some amount of self-esteem is necessary but not sufficient for self-liking. A reliable indicator of self-liking is being able to tolerate periods of mild boredom without getting mad about it or impatiently forcing events.
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A reliable indicator of self-disliking is that boredom makes you angry. Boredom is due to the universe temporarily putting on a dull show, occasionally unavoidable, but you could still be good company for yourself. Getting mad means you *need* the distraction from yourself.
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Self-liking may or may not be accompanied by being likable to others. I think the 2x2 is full, but the symmetric positions are more stable (likable+self-liking and dislikable+self-disliking).
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I suspect a good deal of the raw material for self-liking must come from interesting things you find inside your own head. Even if you are perfectly ordinary, that’s one special source of experiences, because you can’t access the inside of anyone else’s heads.
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