sometimes I want to celebrate myself the way I celebrate my friends, but I hesitate bc my gut tells me it would be too easily parsed as narcissism
it’s the exact same feeling of appreciation, but it’s unlikely to be parsed that way
narcissists ruin self-love for the rest of us
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in the course of an hour, my friend Visa sat me down, put everything aside, listened to my problems attentively and non-judgementally, was compassionate and kind and invited me to frame things in a healthy and nourishing way
this is a thing this guy does, for all his friends
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I can’t go not-earnest on this one, it runs too deep. The cynical rogue has to show up for his friends in the end
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How often do people actually turn to you for this. I’ve successfully conditioned people to not expect it of me 👹
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It varies a lot, seems almost seasonal, and correlated with this sort of content. On an average week maybe 2-3 people or so with mild cases. But it’s the big cases that change everything. Eg acquaintance runs from home bc abusive dad, need place, now lifelong friend. 1x/yr...?
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I’ve seen you 20 comments deep with young angry nerds, your aloofness doesn’t fool me 😍
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I kinda think of it like angel investing in people’s souls
99% of the time it doesn’t amount to much but 1% you get a True Friend out of it
And the odds get a lot better as your network gets less stupid
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