All people are infintely complex, but they’re generally only relatively interesting to the degree you care about them personally on love/hate axis. An absolutely interesting person is one whose complexity is interesting even when you *don’t* care about them.
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This is partly why so many people play nice and resist asshole/contrarian impulses. Not because they’re genuinely nice and empathetic, but because they’re afraid of finding out that they’re not actually that interesting to others once you take caring out of the equation.
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An alt adaptation is giving in to the impulses be an asshole/contrarian but adding extrinsic caring hooks like financial incentives that make people pretend to care about you anyway. The better you are at detecting fake caring the more you have to pay to get better actors.
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It’s a pity. It is so much more rewarding to work at becoming absolutely interesting and/or becoming okay with being boring to almost all people. I mean there’s 7.5 billion humans. Does it really matter that almost all of them will never hear of you, and if they do, not care?
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