That leaves us with cheap+good, giving up on fast.
âGoodâ reach doesnât mean you wonât piss people off. You always will. But it will be a side effect of your creative work rather than your unconscious wounds and repressed demons.
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Youâll piss the right people off for the right reasons, and if they compete, theyâ ll do so via substance in their work based on alternate premises, not via toxic beefs or cheap âdebates.â
And if they win, youâll actually appreciate it because knowledge will have been produced
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But more importantly, your *own* reach will be âgoodâ in the sense that relationships you form will be real human ones that youâll want to keep for life most of the time. Where you might be on different sides of specific reductive labels but on the same side of âhuman.â
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Because ultimately âcensorshipâ in free parts of the Internet (without Chinese characteristics) only matters if you care about the people who canât hear or talk to you.
If you donât, screaming âcensorshipâ is posturing. Youâre being heard by the people you want to be heard by.
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But If you do, learn to find and connect to *both* the humans beneath the partially overlapping tag clouds. Yes, forming a for-life-by-default deep connection with another human being means connecting to a hidden part of yourself as well.
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In fact, many hidden parts. Every deepening of the relationship is a new way to continue the infinite game between you two, a deeper knowledge of yourself and the other. And yet youâll never be clones so long as youâre alive and thinking for yourself.
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So in 2019, do yourself a favor and forget about the people âcensoringâ you and instead focus on people with whom you might be able to form a slowly deepening infinite-game relationship for life, peeling away label after label, connecting as two entangled full humans.
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If this sounds like marriage thatâs no accident. Marriage is merely the relationship where failure to operate in âtill death do us partâ mode is costliest. But itâs an ethos you can bring to any relationship you value. You canât invest this much in 7 billion but you can do ~150.
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I donât care what your tribe is, but I hope youâll build it slow+cheap or cheap+good. I hope you resist the temptation of fast+cheap. I donât care about your ideology/politics. All I care about is that you build your social world around the âgoodâ reach of for-life relationships.
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Slow+cheap is cheap+good, no? Did you mean fast+good?
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