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Ah yes, the old “combating toxic masculinity by being macho and aggressive”.
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My 26 y/o nephew keeps talking about being an alpha male. So I’m taking subtle steps to make him humble up. Step one: I’ve tripped him several times and challenged him to do something about it. Next step is I will take his food. I don’t tolerate that shit in my house.
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ah c'mon man... you're giving a dog a bad name and hanging it. Emotional engagement and tough love are just 2 modes with pros and cons, and both men and women are capable of using both. Don't demonize one. Alphaism is fine until it turns into sadism. Connection has toxicity too
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I did read it and the thread you were QTing. I think there's 2 definitions of "alpha" operating in that thread... a subcultural performance mask version, versus the default natural way guys normally act, which I am very wary of "medicalizing" into a mental illness or something.
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Basically I think a more skilled version of what the guy did actually works and is in fact the basis of management/motivation models that are appropriate for many contexts. Otoh the stereotypically feminine "emotional connection" model has (imo) equal or greater toxicity dangers