People build their realities around a single axiomatic design principle: “I must maximally validate my sense of my own agency.”
If you can figure out where someone *thinks* their agency is located, you can use behavioral observations to model their subjective reality correctly
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Basically, to understand someone, complete the following sentence from their point of view correctly, then take it from there:
“I exercise control over my own life by ________.”
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Note that their belief need not be correct. It might be laughably incorrect.
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I exercise control over my own life by shitposting on twitter dot com.
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I wish I could figure that out about my son. But the mind of a 14 year old is a scary place.




