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An underrated dynamic in the gender wars is that not all conversational tactics are open to everybody. In particular, tactics men constantly use on each other, and laugh off, are seen as crushingly emasculating and humiliating when used by women on men.
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As I was arguing with Sonya, I think that’s rational. If you’re the only female engineer in a team of 50, then any imputed ignorance is much more dangerous for you since the 49 men will draw dumb n=1 conclusions etc. In a majority-women context, the mansplainer would look silly.
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It’s a minority representation effect. I experienced that with other fob Indians saying dumb, parochial shit. Took me a while to fire myself from the job of representing “Indian”. Like a semester. Interestingly power gradients matter. Americans abroad dont mind looking stupid.
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