An underrated dynamic in the gender wars is that not all conversational tactics are open to everybody. In particular, tactics men constantly use on each other, and laugh off, are seen as crushingly emasculating and humiliating when used by women on men.
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ten bonus points for emasculating as something negative toward women which seems paradoxical to a naive observer
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oh I switched genders but I think it’s true in that case too
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Gotta validate gender identities in how you deal with people, _in gender relational context_. One reason trans people are confusing to cis people is that we don’t know how to read their moves because there’s no learned relational context.

