How does doing that make me part of the problem of tribal hatred?
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Because you’ll fail to live up to those standards and decide that a certain kind of person (like me) is to blame for instance 🙂
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The standards aren't so high as you're implying; I'm saying that if you've got control of your faculties and can spare the bit of effort in that moment, you shouldn't mistreat people because for whatever reason you've got an unexplained, visceral dislike for them
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I follow your theory, I just think it's mostly unfounded; you're supposing it's true. So I'd like you to try to draw a coherent, likely line from doing what I describe to empowering tribal hatreds... I don't think you'll actually find one.
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I don’t have a theory, you do, is my point. The burden of proof is on people who think it is possible for everybody to like each other. The reasonable null hypothesis is that there are natural likes/dislikes and limits.
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And dislike doesn’t mean I randomly hurt them or mistreat them. Dislike is not sadism. It just means I avoid them and/or make no effort to be anything more than apathetically civil.
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I thought you suggested it'd be okay to treat them unfairly, though
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As in, don’t feel obliged to invite them to your parties. You seem to confuse passive dislike with active “out to get them” behavior.
“Fair” in procedural terms is part of a job. Fair at a personal level is mostly just disengagement.
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Who you invite to your shindigs is... a bad, particular, and clearly weak example. Who has these kinds of visceral dislikes drives...
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who buys from you and empowers you economically over equivalent others, who makes you feel warm and neighborly or isolated, which social networks you can enter into and benefit personally/socially/economically from, etc. It has big effects.
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You basically want everybody to take unlimited personal responsibility for saving the world. We’re talking past each other now so I’ll let it drop.
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No, that's not feasible, there are clear limits.. I've fell below these standards and treated people less-than-ideally for unexplained, visceral reasons before, as have and will most people. The point is that when you've got the chance to be deliberate and choose... don't do it.
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