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One of the healthiest things you can do is simply decide to dislike certain people, individually, without guilt or rationalization. Simple dislike is benign. Tribal hatred is the cancerous result of trying theorize away failures of dumb universal love doctrines.
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Yes and that’s completely fine unless you’re in a job that requires treating them fairly. In which case develop some compartmentalized professionalism and/or work yourself out of the situation. Nothing good ever came of trying to be a saint about such things.
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hard disagree, sometimes I have a visceral dislike for people but knowing they don't deserve to be mistreated because of *squints* visceral dislike, i put in active effort not to do that to them. I certainly don't like if people do that to me, so I think best to apply universally
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The standards aren't so high as you're implying; I'm saying that if you've got control of your faculties and can spare the bit of effort in that moment, you shouldn't mistreat people because for whatever reason you've got an unexplained, visceral dislike for them
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I follow your theory, I just think it's mostly unfounded; you're supposing it's true. So I'd like you to try to draw a coherent, likely line from doing what I describe to empowering tribal hatreds... I don't think you'll actually find one.
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I don’t have a theory, you do, is my point. The burden of proof is on people who think it is possible for everybody to like each other. The reasonable null hypothesis is that there are natural likes/dislikes and limits.
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As in, don’t feel obliged to invite them to your parties. You seem to confuse passive dislike with active “out to get them” behavior. “Fair” in procedural terms is part of a job. Fair at a personal level is mostly just disengagement.
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