One of the healthiest things you can do is simply decide to dislike certain people, individually, without guilt or rationalization. Simple dislike is benign. Tribal hatred is the cancerous result of trying theorize away failures of dumb universal love doctrines.
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but doesn't that lead to mis(/unfairly)treating them, even in subconsciously-driven ways?
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Yes and that’s completely fine unless you’re in a job that requires treating them fairly. In which case develop some compartmentalized professionalism and/or work yourself out of the situation. Nothing good ever came of trying to be a saint about such things.
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hard disagree, sometimes I have a visceral dislike for people but knowing they don't deserve to be mistreated because of *squints* visceral dislike, i put in active effort not to do that to them. I certainly don't like if people do that to me, so I think best to apply universally
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And that’s how you set yourself up for failure and become part of the problem
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How does doing that make me part of the problem of tribal hatred?
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Because you’ll fail to live up to those standards and decide that a certain kind of person (like me) is to blame for instance 🙂
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The standards aren't so high as you're implying; I'm saying that if you've got control of your faculties and can spare the bit of effort in that moment, you shouldn't mistreat people because for whatever reason you've got an unexplained, visceral dislike for them
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I follow your theory, I just think it's mostly unfounded; you're supposing it's true. So I'd like you to try to draw a coherent, likely line from doing what I describe to empowering tribal hatreds... I don't think you'll actually find one.
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I don’t have a theory, you do, is my point. The burden of proof is on people who think it is possible for everybody to like each other. The reasonable null hypothesis is that there are natural likes/dislikes and limits.
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And dislike doesn’t mean I randomly hurt them or mistreat them. Dislike is not sadism. It just means I avoid them and/or make no effort to be anything more than apathetically civil.
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