One of the healthiest things you can do is simply decide to dislike certain people, individually, without guilt or rationalization. Simple dislike is benign. Tribal hatred is the cancerous result of trying theorize away failures of dumb universal love doctrines.
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but doesn't that lead to mis(/unfairly)treating them, even in subconsciously-driven ways?
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Yes and that’s completely fine unless you’re in a job that requires treating them fairly. In which case develop some compartmentalized professionalism and/or work yourself out of the situation. Nothing good ever came of trying to be a saint about such things.
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hard disagree, sometimes I have a visceral dislike for people but knowing they don't deserve to be mistreated because of *squints* visceral dislike, i put in active effort not to do that to them. I certainly don't like if people do that to me, so I think best to apply universally
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And that’s how you set yourself up for failure and become part of the problem
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How does doing that make me part of the problem of tribal hatred?
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Because you’ll fail to live up to those standards and decide that a certain kind of person (like me) is to blame for instance 🙂
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Not at all. Dislike is an emotional state, mistreatment is an action. One can lead to another but it doesn't have to, especially if you are following a set of rules independent of your own personal bullshit.


