and behind it all the possibility of human pair bond as an optimal zone of total alignment of interests
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pretty cool even ignoring the personal growth possible from epistemic bonding/specialization within couple
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What’s the difference between that and total codependence? What’s the reading of couples where partners die within days of each other (not suicide, just one dying = other gives up)
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I’m not sure I believe in codependence but I hear the word a lot
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I'd love to hear more about your not believing in co-dependence
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for one thing it comes out of the very fake & suspect AA movement
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vague but it seems like “depression + busybody response to lack of trust/safety” which isn’t about monogamy
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I love this. I'm once-married dating another divorcee and we're being so pragmatic about our relationship that we have shared google docs devoted to it
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I wrote this early in my marriage and still endorse it theviewfromhell.blogspot.com/2012/08/what-m
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Jeez am I glad you outgrew that style of writing
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Nobody over 30 should use EEA, game theory as general analysis crutches. Unless they’re actually doing technical game theory or field ethology.
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