1. It finally strikes me that it’s pointless to have children or to get married. All the women in my social class earn more than me, or have been so hopelessly damaged by abortion & multiple relationships (usually both) that it’s a useless enterprise.
2. They have their pick of attractive younger men in their sexual prime, and they’re also expected to be educated and to have completed that before (+career) marrying. That puts the age range of marriage up to, at earliest, 27.
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I am interested in the aetiology and genesis of this pattern of behaviour (which is indeed empirically attested), specifically in the British context. What kind of pressures cause and sustain such behaviour? Do you have any literature (by you or others) on that?
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I think any book on the sociology of sex in Britain published recently would cover it. It’s the pattern for the entire Western (&. Westernised world) pretty much. Cause? Education of women, collapse of the family/religion, birth control, feminism, women entering workforce.
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I’ll look into it, though I am weary of academic sociology because of its progressive bent. Those are the material factors, yes; but where does the pressure to become promiscuous come for these girls? Their mothers? Their peers? The media? All of the above? (Most likely)
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Well, women are naturally sexual as we all are. They enjoy sex. Once you remove constraints, something that has been happening progressively for decades, people become promiscuous. Why wouldn’t you be? Sex is fun and advocating for sexual restraint is stigmatised.
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In the short run, it is, of course, very exhilarating. But the kind of long run damage the lifestyle creates seems to me to be too dear a price. And, rose-tinted glasses aside, it is a fact that there was less of this specific kind of unhappiness under the old paradigm.
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There’s always unhappiness. But, as Wittgenstein observed, “I’m not sure why we’re here, but I’m pretty sure it’s not to be happy.” Yes, the old traditions created a different type of unhappiness but were better for society & people in general. Less harm rather than +happiness.
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Primum non nocere is of course a better principle than maxing your utility function, but good luck getting these moderns to get it.
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I think people do understand this and try to practice it—especially doctors!
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This is true. That being said, within the shii community, there are a significant portion of girls looking to get married right after their undergraduate degrees to men who've been working for a few years or doing their PhDs. The muslims you'd have met are from a different world.
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