I presume that photography is good way to pick up women because: a. It appeals to female vanity, and b. Women like being ordered around, and photography allows you to do this in a way that is not threatening, but still commanding. “Hips out, and hold it...”
I think flirtation is almost always indirect. You have to imply that someone is attractive or that you want to have sex with them. The camera allows you to do this. Being objectified by the camera is sexually exciting, probably. Is that what you’re getting at?
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I'm (at least trying to) get at the mechanics of how it is sexually exciting. I think there is a great deal more to it
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Yes, it’s difficult. I suspect that decisions about sex are made quickly before speech, but our conciousness and language create post-hoc explanations and this is what flirting is. This is why I “know” I’m going to sleep w/ someone long before it happens, before speaking.
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This is why I prefer traditional courtship. It's a formality either way, so being formal seems appropriate
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I understand what you mean by that sentiment...but is that more in theory than practice? It’s hard to say what constitutes a “tradition”, since we’ve had about 500 yrs of dissolving tradition. Did your girl have a chaperon on your last date!? ;-)
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I'm probably wrong about it not being indirect at all, to the degree that I am "aiming" at the opposite. I think "it's better to think about it" as direct, rather than indirect, for pragmatic or moral/aestethic reasons.
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But actually yes, on several occations - but indirect chaperones.
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I dont really date any more, but I have experienced many times meeting up at a cafe, for example, where my date would have secretly, inconspicuously placed a friend a few tables over, admitting to it either at on the date itself or a short while later
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*popcorn consumption intensifies*
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