(2) The main premise of "modesty" culture is that women need to dress in a way that doesn't provoke sexual response in men. Which is insane.
(1) I am a gay man who was raised in a heteronormative world. A part of this world I have always been baffled by is "modesty" culture.
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(3) I think it is absolutely crazy that a man can look at a woman and say "I think you should wear something else, because seeing your skin
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1/No. A man is biased by his arousal. Your AROUSAL is obvious to you. But you can't know a woman's intention if she hasn't said it. Period.
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2/To think you can is hugely problematic. Men project intention on women because of their AROUSAL. Not because they somehow read her mind.
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(1) I spoke of my experience with men. They are parallel. Also, YOU don't get to determine when a woman dresses to impress, or for comfort.
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(2) The fact that you think you can read women's minds says a LOT more about you than any judgment you make of a woman says about her.
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This. My thoughts exactly. This externalization of the 'blame' for desire is also the root of most homophobia in actually-straight men.
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This is a brilliant extension of the logic. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts. SO TRUE.
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This is the single greatest thread I have ever read. Women spend our whole lives being told it is all our responsibility and fault.
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That is not fair. And it has to stop. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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