As chief justice of online, I now declare it illegal for any man to write about incels unless it is to unpack, reflect and condemn toxic masculinity, male entitlement & the myriad interconnected ways society perpetuates much of these horrific beliefs.
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But that means confronting problems (cis het) men have as a whole, not merely the more dangerous, toxic & horrific part of our gender. Creepy economists thought experimenting with "access to sex" like it's a resource, not something involving women's consent, should grab a mirror.
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If you begin your focus on incels with discussions about sex, you've handed them legitimacy. Don't anchor this about sex. They can call themselves "celibate" but the reality is they're angry at being told no in various ways, about various issues - directly & indirectly.
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This is also not a Young Internet Man thing; this is another manifestation from centuries of patriarchy and sexist values, taught by fathers to sons, media to male viewers, the worldview of white male supremacy in art, law, politics around the world that's dominated for so long.
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It's comforting to view this as a new species of rot rather than a vine from the poisoned roots of our gender because it would mean men actually digging into ourselves, into our privilege, to see flashes of familiarity in the views held up by these "fringe" male elements.
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It's easy to condemn and mock incels; let me know when you're calling out your male friends, your male family members, giving up listening only to male musicians, only male authors, when you stop having only male friends. This toxicity doesn't emerge ex nihilo.
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If you don't see a direct link between incel garbage and the normalisation of male entitlement, I need only indicate how "friendzone" & "persistence/wearing her down" are still things, still tropes so much media uses & shrugs at (and it's always a male "victim")
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Some time ago for the
@guardian, I wrote about some aspects of how we've camouflaged creepy entitlement under the banner of "romance" in many storieshttps://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/sep/12/stalking-men-rejection-romantic-sitcoms-films-creepy-women-boundaries …Show this thread -
Also please don't ignore the voices of sex workers who are being used as depersonsalised distributors of sex to "solve" incel issues, as if sex workers are not peoplehttps://twitter.com/TrancewithMe/status/990019964940664832 …
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I believe that people are complicated & can be more than one thing at a time. For example, you can hold really shit opinions AND be a bad writer.pic.twitter.com/usGSWeBeeH
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This is the most incredible ratio I've seen. Congrats to Yoady Toung for a bad take and continually boring writingpic.twitter.com/38nnaLkefU
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Well said.
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