emanation of psyche

to be fair, demisexuality makes sense as a dialectical move (read: countersignal) if you're looking at young-urban-liberal areas. consider that much praise for monogamy inherits from Christian social norms, which are flailing esp in cities...

what I don't really understand is the appeal in continuing to promote it, when it's so unsustainable and everyone likes orgasms and novel partners.

monogamous partners actually have more sex

this, uh, does not match up to what the kids today are calling "My Lived Experience" but I will totes look at cites

its true though

In aggregate, yes, but a given individual's behavior (and sexual fortunes) when available vs when monogamous may veer off in either direction

looping back to this I think the main issue is transaction costs and specifically search frictions pretty generally finding novel partners is a much more costly road to orgasm than picking up your wife or POSSLQ or w/e and throwing them into your bed in the next room

I generally don't so much 'look for' novel partners as I am 'accepting of them as opportunities arise' which over the long run has proven excellent at both acquiring partners and minimising drama