emanation of psyche

first, an empirical/theoretical/science? problem lots of these divisions are probably not real instead theyre imposed over a continuous distribution with a single fat mode near the median dont :clap: classify :clap: unless :clap: the :distribution :clap: is :clap: multimodal

second, because of the way that people *identify* with specific sexual practices and habits, this probably discourages actual self-knowledge by creating ossified (and maybe wrong???!!!!) identities

sexual preferences are goopy and context-dependent and etc etc if you want satisfaction and self-knowledge, keep your sexual identity small and personal numinous identity vs olympic identity

I still don't know what a 'demi' is other than 'what we used to call a romantic' and tbh i'm not gonna police ppl's identities but it does not seem like a super useful one to me

demisexuality is a way of pretending that the single most praised and rewarded sexual behavior pattern in our culture is oppressed because Chad and Stacy like casual hookups

to be fair, demisexuality makes sense as a dialectical move (read: countersignal) if you're looking at young-urban-liberal areas. consider that much praise for monogamy inherits from Christian social norms, which are flailing esp in cities...

what I don't really understand is the appeal in continuing to promote it, when it's so unsustainable and everyone likes orgasms and novel partners.

monogamous partners actually have more sex