I wish all the people who ever thought of me as kind or funny or wise would tell me. I want to do this more for others, too. I naïvely think that'd make the world better... Or would it just blow up egos and create perverse incentives? Hmm, just re-invented virtue-signalling..?
Because bad or fearful things imprint on memory so much more than good or happy things, I think compliments will never be enough. They barely register and are forgotten (emotionally) it’s an arms race that never comes out good. Better to cultivate well being without them.
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Giving compliments however seems like it’s more deeply entwined with positives for the psyche and the soul, so people should do it as liberally as they like (and since they’re forgotten, there’s no downside)
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Yes, I think this is closer to how I imagine it being a good thing. Not the direct effect of compliments on the receiver, but for the giver to exercise the muscles gratitude and appreciation and contributing to a culture of it. ~= giving compliments is better for the giver
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Yes, I think of the supposed 5-1 ratio needed to balance positives-negatives and thinks it's way too optimistic!
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