Robert Kegan explaining his adult developmental theory, with @dthorson
“If you want to be Stage 5 because all the cool kids are, that’s a Stage 3 aspiration. If you want it because Stage 5 is the Correct way of thinking, that’s a Stage 4 aspiration.”https://anchor.fm/emerge/episodes/Robert-Kegan---The-Five-Stages-of-Adult-Development-And-Why-You-Probably-Arent-Stage-5-eb8gug …
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Replying to @Meaningness @dthorson
Don't remember who said it, but..."How do you know you want to attain Enlightenment? You might not like it."
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S. T. Suzuki Roshi, maybe? The process of getting to stage 5 is generally awful, and once there it’s a letdown if you were expecting it would solve problems it doesn’t. So, yes…
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Why is it awful?
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Each of the stage transitions requires you to abandon a comfortable, functional way if being that you called “myself” and to accept that you will be confused and lost and dysfunctional and fucking up often for several years as you learn the difficult new way of being.
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Replying to @Meaningness @AtaraxJim and
So..1 story coming out of this synthesis here is that those of us who have given up on rationality being The Way at age 28 have ~12 years ahead of us stuck in the wilderness before we can be...whatever the fuck 5 is :P (Or we're v, v wrong about our relationship to rationality)
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Replying to @utotranslucence @Meaningness and
I mean, and/or the Kegan stages are a partial model anyways, and we can play at being at different levels...
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Replying to @utotranslucence @AtaraxJim and
Yes, fwiw I think they can be brilliantly illuminating in some cases, but don’t seem to fit some people’s experience at all, and in any case shouldn’t be concretized.https://youtu.be/m3dZl3yfGpc
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Replying to @Meaningness @AtaraxJim and
I haven't listen to the podcast yet, I'll admit--do you know what the biggest reason Kegan gives for no 5's younger than 40? (I.e. what does his theory say, not just 'we didn't find any')
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@mattgoldenberg wrote a thread saying only people over 40 “default” to stage 5 under stress, which makes far more sense of his claim!
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Replying to @ssica3003 @utotranslucence and
But also that seems like a reasonable way to assess where someone is *really* at, if you're a psychologist, like him, rather than an aspirational movement advocate, or a self-improvement-ist.
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Replying to @GregDember @ssica3003 and
I think of it like an average. You can measure an average using mean, median, mode, geometric mean, etc. None of them is a more "real" way to measure average than any other, just depends on context. And all of them are simplifications of actual underlying dataset.
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