MetaJess

If I was more horny I would like to be this woman. Except I don’t care if they sleep with other women just gotta shackle their life-duties to me. Actually my life may already be like this. Hurray!

would be interested in how being open to the men sleeping with other partners would change the poll bc obv the sexual exclusivity part is the least appealing part of it to me lol

Yeah would be interested too. But this situation is interesting because it’s having a harem but with a woman at the top. IMO that could totally work because there do exist strong & horny women and plenty of less horny men who want to be told what to do.

As a guy, this is a bit mind-boggling. I feel like I assume that guys have to be both ambitious and a bit dominant for women to be interested in us over the long run, and so that setup feels like a trap.

I have no trouble finding a variety of contexts for men to show off their ambition and dominance to me

@ChasingMyself I'm surprised! But then I'm used to thinking of gender norms as at best "suggestions". You seem way more trapped into the really basic versions of what "being a man" is and what "masculinity" is (?) Is it not obvious that the popular ones are optional?

Sometimes I feel really unconstrained and like I can be flexible with rules. Everything flows and feels high-energy and people around me respond. But then when I start feeling constrained by who I am/how I act, I re-interpret that response as due to fitting social default roles.

ah that makes sense to me, like it’s easy to be open and flexible when you’re open and flexible but when you’re not it’s suddenly vulnerable to stray from the norm?