Meditating on the fact that when I eventually “succeed” (as defined by others), people will say that I was lucky, and that using me as a case study = survivor bias
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I get the same x for y statements thrown at me. Most tend to be a way for the other person to explain away my happy existence, especially so when I tell them my low salary target and low work hours.
100% same. It's because it's too hard on their self esteem to acknowledge that their life could be happier, with lower work hours or whatever, if only they put in thought/effort/extra. And they can't/won't. Some sort of dread holds them back. That's ok. I'm sad for them.
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Similarly, when older people asked abt my ambition, I used to resist answering. Now I just say smt like "before 40 I wanna to be a well known author, has a nice place to live and plenty of savings". They actually leave me alone. Some even get interested "wow you have changed!"
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Act of kindness: help them reduce cognitive dissonance by allowing them to tell that x to y story. Also remember "no one is stupid enough to be wrong 100% of the time" I think their version is not completely wrong. We are blind to what we don't see.
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Completely agree. I think what frustrated me is that they’d think attribute x is why I was able to do y. But really it is attribute z that they have too! Much easier if we could just high five about both having zpic.twitter.com/Uwem2bMF1y
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