sonya@zfnd.org, me@sonyaellenmann.com 
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A couple of points from the replies that I agree with: 1) Almost nothing is monocausal. 2) Your interests and cognitive tendencies are likely to be substantial factors.
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What if the actual reason why I gravitate toward majority-male subcultures is that I'm avoiding intrasexual competition for status? 
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I think the lower level of intrasexual competition is a factor, though, and one I hadn't consciously identified until recently.
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One friend asked in DMs if I'm mildly autistic. Answer: Not diagnosably, I don't think, but I'm closer to aspie-brain than normie-brain. Somewhere in between. (Caveat: Self-assessments are always skewed!)
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Do you like competition?
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Only when I'm winning
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So mostly not, since the majority of competitions have a single winner and more than two participants? Gravitating toward majority-male subcultures doesn't seem like it would be an effective way to avoid competition, rather the contrary
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I think a more likely explanation is you're high systemizing (and maybe low empathy?)
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That's definitely also true. Realistically it's a combination of factors
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wait, are you saying that a person's major life choices might not be entirely attributable to a single cause that fits into a tweet?
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Let's not go THAT far!
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Pretty much never, lol. I have zero gender dysphoria and very strongly identify as female despite my cluster of male-coded tendencies
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ty charle i appreciate the support
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I wonder this as well. I wonder also are men more forgiving of a failure to accurately read social cues than women or do I just care less about their social approval? I find women more intimidating than men for sure.
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100% — I was also thinking of that "aspie women present like neurotypical men" thing
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This is part of the reason for some people, even if few admit it. You can tell by the reaction when more women enter these fields.
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I don’t discount this possibility, but the same reaction could indicate “oh god a potentially boring person has entered the group and will now proceed to ruin the dynamic.” (I usually try to be extra friendly to balance my initial “oh no” reaction, whatever the cause.)
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I think I also over-correct in friendliness toward people I have a negative reaction to but still need to get along with, in order to get back to baseline. What breaks my heart is when I feel like I'm competing for attention with a woman I like, because I become resentful :(
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That can happen too, but just get to know the people. Once they are your friend the resentfulness wears off. Tech women have a good opportunity for this, as they are likely to have other things in common. New people are even more nervous than you are
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It doesn't become real hostility anymore, I can deal with the jealousy pretty well
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My tactic was always to make friends with the women I’d be jealous of, so now I have tons of badass amazing female friends
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Definitely a good solution, if you’ve the knack of friend-making!
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Just be nice to people. Lol everyone likes compliments
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