i think people like because it lets men "see" into the headspace of the woman in the situation. it's such a common thing for young women/afab people to experience, but rarely written. so men might be reading it and finally kind of understanding how creepy and awful it is (1/2)
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instead of just brushing it off as no big deal, just a bad match. so even though the protagonist is not fantastic, by making these guys look through her eyes at the situation, they have to see her as a /person/ and recognize that she's not just a bitch, trying to hurt this guy
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I really appreciate the replies. I guess I think I'm crazy because to me the narrator comes off as a shallow, unreflexive, awful cliché. If the theme is "patriarchy makes women simultaneously pathetic and assholes" then Mission Accomplished I guess.
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While you're entitled to it, I find your interpretation of the protagonist questionable. Shallow people dont bend themselves backwards to try and spare other people's feelings. Assholes dont feel guilt for asserting themselves in any capacity.
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I started reading thinking I had nothing in common, but realized how many times I have given myself, sacrificed my own wants out of obligation to a man (in many ways, not necessarily sexually) because I didnt want to hurt their feelings, or make them mad, or hurt their
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self confidence or look "stuck up" or look like a "bitch." And I realized on the rare instance I stood up for my own feelings, how guilt ridden I felt. For simply declining to twerk on a guy. For not giving my number. To the point where sometime's it'd ruin my night/day.
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I was never even conscious of it being something I did. And this story shook me into realizing that 1) holy shit I DO do that, 2) Lot's of women do and 3) through all that backbreaking of wanting not to be "the bitch" how so many of us end up being "the bitch" anyway in mens eyes
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