John Sonmez

I'm so sorry. Does that happen to you on a regular basis? By your boss? A co-worker? If you don't smile, do they call you a fucking bastard? Do they follow you and harass you if you ignore them? Are you afraid a woman will attack you if you aren't "nice"?

Have you ever rejected a woman? It doesn't end well no matter how nicely you do it.

Being a woman, no. I have rejected men, though..and I was called a fucking tease, a bitch, a cunt. I was stalked for several weeks by a man who was a *total stranger*, who was angry when he asked me out and I said No. He knew where I worked, and watched me through the window. /1

John, all due respect, when you call men "weak pussies", you don't sound like an ally. Calling them pussies is insulting to Women. Personally, I prefer "dicks", jackasses or arseholes. You seem pretty articulate. You can do better than that.

Anyway, I get what you are saying. And it is a shame that the things you talked about are a reality for many women today. The solution is to teach men to not be weak cowards, easily offended and bitter about rejection, feeling entitled to a woman.

I fight this battle every day. Believe me. People on both sides hate me. Men call me a feminist, some women call me sexist. I understand very well the dynamics at play. But I coach men to be real men who do not prey on women.

This is not something that is done from a position of weakness. We have to teach men to deal with their masculinity and understand it and to understand their role to protect those weaker than themselves.

No no no. You still don't get it. It is not men's roles to "protect" us, but to treat us as equals. Needing men as allies means listening and learning from women's experiences, then educating & enlightening men and boys to treat us with respect. Not to be owned or controlled.