John Sonmez

really? did he ask someone to calm down and have a conversation? that's just awful! he should be banned from using the internet!

Asking them to have a convo is one of the issues the others are completely ignoring the victim's experience and then supporting the abuser.

based on the level of civility of the mentioned thread, both sides could report being a victim. It simply spun out of control causing complete chaos. At the end, nobody knew exactly what was the premise of this entire conflict.

Anybody who didn’t know, didn’t want to know. The information is out there for anybody to find.

that is a fair assessment, but is it how humans work in general? If that would be the case we wouldn't have the US govt fighting against fake facts/news published on social media skewing public opinions etc. All the facts are always there, right, and so far it didn't help.

my point is -- assuming malicious intent of someone who asks both sides to sit down and talk is wrong. A good intention turned into a mess and this happens. Is this a reason to ban from conferences? I do not think so.

I don't believe anyone was assuming malicious intent. Not that I can tell. It's the assumption that someone who was abused wants to sit down with their abuser to have a "civil convo". For HIM it's good in intentioned but if he just stop and thought for a moment he'd see it's...

Completely inappropriate and inconsiderate. No mediation was required. The abuser needs to stop being an abuser and take immediate steps to remedy the situation. Then he, Charles, continues to support the abuser. Now, I can see how peeps may believe malicious intent from that.