you express emotions differently when you are trying to preserve yourself or your status including preserving your *sense of self*
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I might call these "scarcity" or "threat" emotions and the other set "abundance" or "security" emotions
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this is also genderless -- I bet most people prefer to be around people who are expressing emotions in a way that projects abundance and security
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and both sets of emotional "modes" have a full spectrum of positive -> negative though I *suspect* that under threat or perceived threat, each individual's emotional range narrows to the set they've learned will get results and/or whatever they're predisposed to genetically
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I think where the gender differences come in is that men and women *tend to* have different emotional toolkits they reach for for the sake of self-preservation
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more women than men projecting "I'm weak/distressed/in need of help" more men projecting "I'm aggressive and dangerous" or "I'm stoic and resilient/strong enough that you shouldn't fuck with me"
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I've seen the complaint that women claim to want "sensitive men" but look down on men for showing vulnerability and weakness and yeah that's a thing
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without making claims about what "all women" want, I think what's sometimes going on here is: someone who expresses a full range of emotions in a state of security is sexier than someone who expresses a gender-typical, narrowed range of emotions in a state of these insecurity
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and *that* is sexier than someone who expresses a gender-atypical range of emotions in a state of insecurity
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using "sexier" but I really mean that it's more appealing with or without the context of attraction or finding a partner
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more thoughts later but bedtime now
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