I swear to god I'm not going trad, but the more I think about it the dumber it seems to encourage young people to do some serial monogamy before partnering up — like people whose only practice is in explicitly disposable relationships would be any better at the real deal
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Anecdotally, the #1 problem I see in high-caliber dating circles is a toxic tendency to wonder if one's current partner is the "best" they "can do." Shitty people retort that this is wrong because people should "settle," but that's just the flipside of the same bad pattern
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I can tell you this with pretty high confidence: if "is this person the best I can do?" is a recurring thought after more than a couple months of serious dating, you're probably better off leaving now. There will never be a way to get your answer, and the question is poisonous
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Part of the problem is that people don't know what do with each other. They're not supposed to be "codependent," whatever that means, and kids are no longer a given; a lot of couples just don't really know their *why,* beyond abating the lonelinesshttps://twitter.com/centralunplan/status/1180683888059965441?s=21 …
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It's actually a hard problem to figure out what to do with each other if you've got two entirely independent career paths, no interest in building the same thing or compatible things, no desire for kids, etc. Which is why I think "codependence" is a bad meme, especially now
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Agree fully with your dislike of all of the modern sayings, but if that is what everybody thinks, then that's what we're going to find when we meet people. I quit rolling the dice as soon as I found someone that considered relationships and not dating 'the work'.
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Not implying 'work' as a negative connotation - just suggesting that there are goals that are easier to achieve with a partner.
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