MCV 30 Under 30 2021 
I feel like my whole life is this dance of being quiet because people won’t get me, slowly getting comfortable, eventually revealing my true self, then backing off again when once again the real me was Too Much.
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I completely relate to that - would you say your 'Too Much' relates to emotions or manners? I overshare when I'm overwhelmed, and always end up regretting it afterwards. Vicious cycle of self-fulfilling anxieties! Take a look at RSD, I think it explains a lot of the behaviours.
Both maybe? I get super, SUPER excitable and end up overshooting tone-wise, which often results in oversharing (so embarrassing after), making overly familiar jokes or going on unsolicited rants. I consistently misjudge my audience and fail to read the room.
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Then I try to compensate by either totally shutting down or undershooting, which seems to make people feel awkward.
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I think a lot of that guarding/self-policing comes from the 'corrective' comments etc. as ND's grow up. I saw somewhere that ADHD kids receive 20,000x negative comments during childhood over positive - that must have a huge effect on the 'police' part of your brain (it does mine)
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You nailed it - not just negative emotions overflow! Over the years I think I've grown to second guess myself a lot as a result which just feeds it more imo. I can't speak for you but I know it's also what my closest friends appreciate about me - it's hard to reframe but true!
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Absolutely. Also, I just looked up RSD — that describes me pretty well tbh. I have a lot of the symptoms of ADHD but have yet to seek a diagnosis (it was really evident when I was a kid, but mum didn’t believe in getting diagnoses for that sort of thing.
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