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And if someone ignores the boundaries you've set, or retaliates? Red flag. Don't let yourself be guilted into putting up with something you're not comfortable with.
I say this as another person who has been made to feel uncomfortable by Roberto's attentions in the past, though in fairness he began to improve towards the end. What I can't ignore, though, is how many others were in the same position. I'm talking about this sort of behaviour:
- Incessant messaging and replying across multiple platforms - Assuming emotional intimacy to an uncomfortable degree - Using mental health and personal circumstances to guilt people into lowering boundaries - (In some cases) Accusing those who expressed discomfort of racism
Many including myself weren't firm enough about this because, on paper, he was very nice. I didn't want to hurt his feelings or act detrimentally to his mental health. Blocking felt unearned, but now I know it's not about that. It's about protecting your space.
I changed my mind about that this morning when I saw just how many people had the same experience. Others have confronted him *many* times and his behaviour has remained the same, just directed at different people.
So that's it. If someones makes you feel uncomfortable, just block them. Don't stick around for the sake of their feelings. It's okay to feel uncomfortable even if you can't quite pin the reason, and it's okay to assert your boundaries. Don't let anyone make you feel otherwise.
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