SJ Longthorne

Similar thing here. I was never the angry type. Then some bad stuff happened a year ago, and since then I’ve really struggled with my temper, particularly with people who seem eager to please and impress. Perhaps because I see something of me in them.

Sorry for intruding, but I'm finding this really enlightening. I think I've experienced this from the other side a couple of times recently. I've been very stressed/anxious and I think Ive overcompensated by being eager to please/impress in a weird way

It's caused a couple of friends who are going through similar stuff to become annoyed and ultimately retreat from me and I've been trying to figure out why. I haven't done anything bad but I'm aware I'm coming across unnaturally insecure and anxious. That must be what's doing it.

The challenge we now face is to grow confidence within ourselves, independently of others. I’ve been doing strength training, and that helps a lot (though I won’t deny being partial to a little affirmation haha). Things that make you feel accomplished.

I've actually been doing exactly the same recently re: strength training. I'm also trying to not rely on others to make me feel confident while working on the core underlying problems.