SJ Longthorne

Similar thing here. I was never the angry type. Then some bad stuff happened a year ago, and since then I’ve really struggled with my temper, particularly with people who seem eager to please and impress. Perhaps because I see something of me in them.

I often find that the things that annoy me most in others are traits/behaviours I too possess, and they’re often the ones I’m most ashamed of. Seeing them reflected back at me is a reminder. I think that’s difficult.

May not be what’s going on with you, but even just being aware of it is helpful, and makes it easier not to act on your feelings. I don’t think there’s an easy answer; patience is easier said than done.

It’s natural to struggle with it. I think the key is to be kindly introspective; if you accept those things about yourself, you’ll slowly start accepting them in others. In the meantime, for me it’s been about learning to bite my tongue and use coping techniques to calm down.