SJ Longthorne

Similar thing here. I was never the angry type. Then some bad stuff happened a year ago, and since then I’ve really struggled with my temper, particularly with people who seem eager to please and impress. Perhaps because I see something of me in them.

I often find that the things that annoy me most in others are traits/behaviours I too possess, and they’re often the ones I’m most ashamed of. Seeing them reflected back at me is a reminder. I think that’s difficult.

May not be what’s going on with you, but even just being aware of it is helpful, and makes it easier not to act on your feelings. I don’t think there’s an easy answer; patience is easier said than done.